My daughter bought her first home and as shopped for furnishings, it became clear she needed to change her perspective. She’s spent her entire grown up life in small homes and apartments. She couldn’t wrap her head around the fact she no longer has to be limited to apartment sized furnishings.
My entire adult life has been transient so I can pack a car to the last mm of space with a minimum of rearranging. I can look at a room and see exactly what will fit where.
Not that she doesn’t trust me, it’s more she doesn’t trust what she can’t perceive. So I got out the tape measure and proved that the sectional she thought was massive was actually going to look like children’s furniture in her new living room! Once she saw for herself, she was aware of how much space she really does have to work with now.
That opened up a whole new world of opportunities she hadn’t yet considered. All of her bedroom furniture will actually fit in her bedroom?! A dedicated library! Room to have people over with spaces for everyone to sit! A yard to entertain in! A kitchen with space to actually cook! A dining room! She’d known those were her plans but now she can actually see how it’s all going to work together to be her dream.
Do you need a new perspective on something in your life? I know I tend to try to be in control of everything. I also know I’m actually in control of absolutely nothing other than my reaction/reaction to what’s going on in my life. But am I making mountains out of molehills? Worrying about things I can’t change? Trying to change things I know deep down I can’t? Am I wasting valuable energy on things I just need to let go of? Of course. While that can be healthy sometimes and prompt changes for the better, often, it’s just a time consuming and unproductive thing to do. So, today, I will change my perspective and realize I’m not confined to the walls I live in. I can expand further than that and live as largely as I want to. Today, I will not focus on what I think will fit into my life. I will dream of things in the bigger picture.